Social Anxiety Blogs

Sometimes I forget, and I have to remind myself.

I have been feeling really pent up, very sad, and very alone lately. I couldn’t figure out why I was feeling the way I did, and mostly, why I was getting anxiety attacking me at full force. Well I sat down with a pen and paper and I decided to write down the logical reasons why I would be feeling this way right now. It is okay that I have weeded out friends that weren’t good for me, it is okay that I don’t have any close friends anymore and that me and my boyfriend broke up. Usually, everything happens for a reason, and there is a learning experience behind it all. This situation is temporary, like everything else in life is, life is constantly changing and this too shall pass. This anxiety won’t last forever, and I will get past it, because I am trying, and when you try, usually you will end up with results in the end. God helps those who help themselves. I will make more friends eventually, and I am not the only person who feels and thinks the way that I do ( I have been shown this). I will not let people make me feel nervous or intimidated, because I am a unique and likable person. If a person does not like me, then that is okay, because not everyone has to like me, and sometimes I don’t like certain people either. I can get a long, and I can be mature about it though. I was being negative and I was creating my own fears and anxiety. I HAVE CONTROL OVER MY THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS. I do have family that love me, and that I can talk to. I am choosing not to talk to them, and thinking that they don’t really know who I am anymore, but I am not trying to open up to them either. Therefore, I am creating my own little bubble of fear and loneliness. I need to appreciate today, because I am alive, I am well, I do have loving family, and I love them. I need to appreciate today because I am working hard to reach my goals, I have goals, and they are important to me. Also, my friend is coming down to visit in May. I will not feel anxious or nervous around him, because he does know me, and he is very understanding, open minded, and sensitive. I am a good person, and I can act and be myself, and share my thoughts, because I am unique and interesting. If someone doesn’t like me, then that is okay. I have to trust myself and god more; I have to keep doing things that scare me, because it is the only way to get past them. I can take baby steps; I can go into the situation by making it as comfortable for myself as I want, because I am in control. If I need a certain person there to do this feared task, then I will bring them until I have become comfortable with it, because I can. I can do whatever I want that will help me get through. I am in control, and no matter how hard it gets, I will not give up. Praying does help, so I will keep doing that too. Every time that I feel the anxiety and the visuals coming on, then I will stop, take a deep breath, and think of the word CONFIDENCE, I will repeat that in my head, or another word that makes me feel comfortable or at ease, until the anxiety subsides. Or maybe even think of a moment that I really enjoyed, or made me laugh… that may help too.

I decided to post this, because if you’re anything like me, you may have already figured out ways to get past your anxiety, or things that have helped you through it in the past. Although, sometimes we forget, I think a lot, or get caught in my depression and negativity, so I’m not going to remember everything. Therefore, I have to remind myself. I also wanted to post this, because I was hoping that maybe it will help any of you who feel lost.

Ps: When I woke up this morning, and I thought about all of this it helped make me feel better, and gave me hope. So let's just hope that it works out, and I can try my hardest to keep getting past anxiety's hell hold. :)