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28 May 2009 - 7:18pm — orla

I always been shy, but in the last 3 years it got worse and worse , getting so bad i couldnt go to school because I would panic(their is around 800 people in the school).I started going to a counsler once a week but it didnt really help because she keep asking about going to crowded places.I would panic at the tought so she told me breathing tips to help relax when in a crowed these didnt help either.
When im in a crowded or with people i dont know i tense up and move my hands alot(i have no idea why), I feel people are gonna do something or are staring at me.I always talk quiet and fast aswell.
Im movin to a smaller school, I went to the school to meet the headmaster ,but got panicy when he showed me what its like in the halls between classes cause I felt like they were staring at me.
I also have mild depression from the social phoiba.
So when i seen this website i thought it mite help to get it out
xoxo orla

Comments

15 August 2009 - 5:30am — sweetheart808

Hi Im new here also

Hi Orla,
I know exactly how you feel as I went through that through high school as well. But I just want to let you know that I overcame my social phobia/anixety so you can too. I am now in college and i don't feel shy like at all anymore, or anxious. I think the most important thing is to just focus on loving and appreciating who you are, and all the rest will automatically follow. I don't absolutely agree with the other comments her about God, yes I believe in God, but I used to pray to him everyday, to heal my social anxiety. I mean i was very religious, for i was raised a christian, and I really believed that like my social anxiety was some sort of demon that had its hold on me, that I had no control over it, and that God would one day just snap his fingers or whatever and suddenly I would be totally and completely healed. But it just doesn't work like that, I think its more true to believe that quote that goes 'God helps those who help themselves.' So my advice to you is to never give up and never stop striving to better yourself.

4 June 2009 - 2:38pm — Olive

hello Orla

I also have social anxiety. It had peaked to its absolute worst, and it is a horrible feeling, so I really feel for you when you describe your situation. But, I am getting better, and I am getting better because I have turned to God and my life has been changing in a great way. Medidate on the word, instead of on your worry. And I will GAURANTEE you that you will feel a difference. I promise you that you can beat this anxiety, there is a way, and people just have to open their hearts more to the idea, because if they don't then they really are only depriving themselves of having a better life and healing. And really, with all the suffering, and all the other things we try to do to make it go away or mask it, what do we have to lose turning to God?
You can find a comfortable enviorment like a youth christian worship group..they keep it pretty relaxed and comfortable, and everyone there is focusing on God, no one will stare and judge you there. It is a place where you can feel accepted and belong!. I go to a christian worship, and I feel I can just relax and focus on god and my healing.

I'll pray for you Orla. Good luck, and God bless, and know that Jesus loves you and wants you to be happy.

30 May 2009 - 6:28pm — butterflywings

Seek Him for Peace

Orla, ya know sometimes life can seem like everything is closing in on you. As you feel everyone's focus is on you, but in reality it really isn't. You are bringing worry to the forefront of your life. I want to share with you, that if you will recreate your focus taking it off yourself and everyone around you and placing it on Jesus, He will help bring you release. See Jesus wants to be your best friend, and He wants to help guide your steps. He wants to know what brings you to such fear in crowded places, and He wants to help you through this struggle. Life is often full of changes and trials, but Jesus is neverchanging, He is the same yesterday, today and tomorrow. Reach out to Him orla and allow Him to help you. Seek Him.

My prayers are with you. This will pass if you will allow Jesus to bring peace to you and your heart.

Take care and God Bless